Today is R U Ok day here in Australia.
Ask a mate, are you Ok?
The idea behind R U Ok day is to start conversation with people who are close to us when we notice that there is something unusual about their life and were are concerned things are not the way they used to be before.
You could change someone’s life just by simply asking, R U Ok?
Initiating a conversation and commenting on the changes you’ve noticed, you could be helping a family member, friend or workmate open up. And if all is well, that person will know you’re someone who cares enough to ask.
These 3 simple steps could change their lives forever.
TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING – Trust your gut instinct and act on it. If you have the feeling there is something unusual in the life of people in your life, that may well be the case. They seem out of sorts, behaving usually on edge, and just not being them.
GETTING READY – Be sure that you are in the right headspace yourself before you decide to take on the matter yourself. This is just so you are prepared and well equipped to deal with what is ahead of you. You need to ask yourself if you are in the right frame to listen to someone rumble on with their problems. Do not judge, just listen. Pick a right moment. Man sure to spare enough time for what may be a long and hard conversation and that you are prepared to stick around until the very end.
START THE CONVERSATION – show concern, be friendly and be as relaxed about it as you can. Start the conversation by mentioning things that have made you aware something is not quiet right. They may be less outgoing and more introverted and that could be unusual about them. Mention that to them. By all means, avoid confrontation if they do not want to talk about. Assure them that you care and are willing to talk anytime they feel like having a chat with you. Do not push them by all means. If they are willing to chat, listen without judging them. Asked pointed questions to get as much information as you can. You can also sit silently and just take it all in. Depending on how long they have been down, encourage them to seek professional help of their worries. Check in with them after a week or so and touch base on how they are going.
R U Ok is a suicide prevention charity whose mission is to inspire and empower everyone to meaningfully connect with people around them and support anyone struggling with life. Suicide prevention is an enormously complex and sensitive challenge the world over.
Encouraging people to take the time to ask “are you ok?” and listen without prejudice, it helps people struggling with life issue feel connected long before they even think about suicide. It all comes down to regular, face-to-face, meaningful conversations about life. And asking “are you ok?” is a great place to start.
Please take time today and ask R U OK?